You mentioned that you believe he has blocked you, but if I were in your shoes, I would make sure that I had blocked him from all forms of communication. He has a whole guide on how to get your ex back and it's brilliant. But I told him that if we broke up it would be forever. I even told him I want to put this behind me and forget about it. I want her to get in contact, so that I can be the one to finally say , we are done. Eden says October 26, 2014 Ellen, Good for you! Your confused about your ex boyfriend, huh? The narcissist may create contact by pulling on your heart strings regarding third parties or him or herself.
Stay strong and thank you all for the advise. Which was very weird to me cause he was always so private with his family and we aint together. Thanks for your help and input. I think you should look at a form of limited contact for now, with a focus on your own healing and recovery activities. But she cautions that emotional support can send a confusing message, giving false hope or preventing them from moving on.
He told police that he did threaten to kill me in the heat of an argument and that I did it too and Denied everything else! She would constantly leave me, make me beg, then come back promising me the world and how I was the love of her life she wanted to get married, have babies etc. Well, try this one on for size. The time line fits the puzzle. However, it is very important to realize that the emotions and feelings you had for your ex will not go away immediately. All that is behind us now but the hovering continues His choice of hoover subjects clearly demonstrates his knowledge of my weak spots.
He has a public fb profile as well but never posted anything about her until after his trip. Your articles and Quanta Healing have helped me survive, Melanie, and helped me heal the very things at my core that needed cleaning up. I layed for houres in my bed thinking what to messages and read about N but he never respond. I am still in touch with my stepkids and was just holding one of them while she sobbed over the abuse he has inflicted on her. My narc always told me it was in the house and even offered help to find.
Kim Saeed says November 14, 2014 Great response, Anon! If not then they are showing real signs of affection and possibly expectation. If you were the one who was dumped, this is especially true. I was dreading Valentines day in particular this year, as it was the last night that me and my ex spent together this time last year. I had full custody of my children…. Any other advise would be greatly appreciated.
He had his son video taple me one time doing something that I could lose my job for and he threatened me said if I dont give ring back or if I talk bad about him at work he would use it. Then he sent a picture of his dick to one of my best friends and he said it had been an accident. However, it bears remembering that these differences are not always easy to distinguish, and intentions are not always transparent sometimes an ex might not even know how they feel. I love not being that tree falling in the forest. I know I was with him for almost 3 years.
I want to thank you very much for the essential program that you developed and that is helping people whose lives and self identitiy, self worth and destinies have been destroyed by a psychopath or narcissist, to rebuild their lives. I do miss the good times which were few but not the bad ones. I feel he came into my life to teach me something, and ultimately broadened my compassion for others. He probably assumes you still have feelings for him and he is manipulative enough to leverage those feelings to his advantage. Everybody thinks he is just using her for his own benefit and needs. He has moved on with another girl around a year after our break up and we have been talking mostly online sometimes on the phone for maybe a year now. Thats the weakness of women who loves so much.
I listen I watch but I just see his weakness and, regardless of this, his attempt to appear respectable. That was night before last and I have not heard from him since. I was with him lived together in his house with a narcistic mother all day long in his house. A couple of minutes later, he got in his truck and left…no goodbye, see ya or anything not that I expected it. He refuses to acknowledge me or our daughter. The judge gave us a court date for a couple of weeks figure that one out? He just was gone at a time i was in Holland with my mom she has cancer.
Thanks for your advice Yangki! But i did not give in no matter how i wanted to. My ex was really good friends with my best friend, he was, before we met and it used to really get to me that he would ask after me every time he saw her, especially when it was him that had broken my heart and I knew he didn't really care how I was, he just didnt want to look like the bad guy. I guess I am finally getting to the core roots weeds , and it hurts like hell. What about the things you have to talk about…. Every time he gets a new facebook account he adds me as a friend and he will do something or say something on facebook, contrary to what he says when he calls me regarding his new relationship.
So, Stop, talk to yourself, analyse. But each time you come in touch, you are reminded that you no longer have your ex and you face crushing disappointment all over again. I have had the same problem before; and the best thing that I was able to do was distract myself. She pregnant n said da baby mine. After a few times, I really connected to this. I still think of him, sometimes daily.