You may feel that you have already tried everything and nothing works. So expressing emotions, on the whole, seems to be good for you. He knows me like the back of his hand but he forgets that I need him to be open with how he feels. I never even realized I couldn't express my feelings until every boyfriend I ever had told me so and it was all of their biggest complaints. Feelings are also connected to your behavior. But this control of myself, although successful to some degree probably also a result of me getting older , also led to excessive anxiety, which I suppose is just as unbearable.
When your emotional reaction is disproportionate to the event, it is likely due to your rapid, undetected interpretation of that event, more than to the event itself. Mind Reading You believe that others should know how you feel and what you need although you have not disclosed what you need. In extremely stressful situations I am sometimes no longer able to keep this up and have an outburst of emotions, but it happens very rarely and often I slip into an emotionless state right after, where I just don't care about anything at all. Fortunately if I get closer to someone it does get better, but I'll still closely manage what I show and let out, even around my family and girlfriend. Sometimes it presents as physical symptoms, like a headache or an upset stomach. The important part in this step, though, is to deal with it on your own before you bring it up to someone else.
Honestly, if I had a choice, I probably would like to ignore the fact that they exist altogether. I've talked about it on here a couple of times and to sum it up I generally hide anything that can give much insight into how I am emotionally, that involves the tone of my voice and what I say and do in front of people, it's made me very held back, When my dad died I was only 4 and I didn't really even show any emotion then, I was thinking about this a week ago and I think that it is probably the cause of my issues. Generally, feelings are best expressed during a calm and structured or semi-structured exchange. Sometimes, an introvert who has been hurt will withdraw into a shell from which it is hard to extricate them, and will become fearful of expressing their feelings freely. For example, fear may show up as a knot in your stomach or a tightness in your throat. You may find it helpful to make a list of various feelings e.
Sharing positive feelings solidifies relationships. The purpose here is to vent your emotions. I don't even know if that makes sense. An angry voice invites an angry voice in return. That will allow you to discharge your pent up anger and stress that can build up inside.
She enjoys rainy days, Jurassic Park, and the occasional Taylor Swift song and can be found on and. Consumer 5 Posts: 149 Joined: Mon Dec 27, 2010 4:36 am Local time: Sun Feb 10, 2019 5:26 pm Blog: trezza wrote:Hard? Hopelessness You are convinced that your relationship cannot improve no matter what you do. I do have lots of feelings for them but I am not able to demonstrate it, I remain like a stone and let them do all the talking and emotional stuff, I have even been regarded as the male of the relationship because of that. You don't need to talk, because when you ask for help and talk with someone and you really don't know what is happening and how to explain it, you will be asked question that will bring the right words and picture of the event. He is an author, researcher and expert in mental health online, and has been writing about online behavior, mental health and psychology issues -- as well as the intersection of technology and human behavior -- since 1992. Beck: You mentioned earlier, and I've seen this around as well, that people are more comfortable with positive emotions being expressed than negative emotions.
Do you find it hard to get worked up over anything? At the same time, thoughts convey dry information, not the juice of what you are experiencing within. What if they take advantage of me? Dear Beloved Reader, we're going to be real with you. Even doing something like taking a deep breath or going for a walk to think about it can be a way of responding to your feelings. This article is designed to help you sort out how to recognize and express your feelings, but the next step after that would be to come at conversations wanting to move forward. Every guy thinks they will break down my wall but I know they won't because it isn't there on purpose I have just always been this way even with my family and friends. Our families helped shape our attitudes about emotions, our abilities to identify emotions, our ways of interpreting events, and our ways of expressing emotions.
If you are having difficulties in any of these processes and are trying to change them, you may find it helpful to consider what you learned about them from your family. Some of us have learned to sublimate our emotions, because we think we are unacceptable, but unexpressed feeling finds a way to let us know it is there. Maybe you think all is well and have zero clue that you bury every damn thing deep inside. I learned something in the process; they all learned to use language to their advantage and had a high level of self-awareness. You believe that people will belittle or reject you if they know how you really feel. Look your loved one in the eye every day and.
First, consider what your options are. Let me rephrase that: Effective communication is hard. Sometimes it can help to talk to friends about your feelings, but choose which friends you go to wisely. Do you feel numb even though something upsetting has happened? You want to help when they're upset, but you actually have no idea what to do or how to approach them. But the problem is that some people have no idea that they truly suck at expressing their thoughts and feelings.
So yeah - be honest, be genuine and be yourself. And most importantly, be patient. Are there some people in your life who might not actually care about how you feel and how they affect that? Learning why you have trouble expressing your feelings can go a long way into changing that behavior. My parents will probably not live much longer. They weren't always like this.