Sure it has an effect on you and your marriage, but let him own this. You hate that I smoke. I just smoke a little to make the food taste even better! So you win the argument. Moderaters have discretion to remove comments as needed. With one guy I dated, smoking was so much of who he was, I never really knew when he was and wasn't high, what was his pure nature and what was his stoned nature. You are young, idealistic, and married less than a year. I finally told my parents.
I hate to say this, but if this was an issue you should not have married him, and should have moved on rather than coerce him. He got a job in a foreign country and had absolutely no access to hash. I know what kinda life I wanna live I see these young religious guys in there early 25-26 and mashallah there soooo humble I wanna change I wanna be able to have a beautiful wife, beautiful kids I just wanna live a humble life and inshallah god helps me with that Ameen! It can induce psychosis schizophrenia self harm etc etc. In California, if you don't have a prescription for Medical Marijuana, you can have up to 1 oz. What it I had a partner who smoked and I hated it — because of the smell both in the house and on my partner, because of the second hand smoke, because of the likely effects down the road on his health, because of the expense. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior.
And she needs her Dad mentally present to help her learn things. Wendy is right, she needs to make a better argument to her husband. I was recently given a vaporizing pen, and that was very sweet. I don't watch to see how much he puts in his joints, but it looks to be about a little less than a gram. The pot smoking person you live with blames the world and you for all the down falls in their life. We got married very very young and he was in his early 20s when he went through this heart surgery.
You will always be a room mate or just a friend. He's a useless parent once he's smoked. I feel like I have a better understanding of his mindset now and can communicate with him a bit better. He couldn't go to parties without knowing at what point in the night he'd get to go back to his place, or go somewhere else, and smoke. An addict won't change unless they want to. Not worth the personal verbal abuse. He probably has a pretty high tolerance since he smokes all day - every day.
Please forgive me for any shortcomings or if I have offended you etc. I guess I run in very liberal circles, so I thought the social stigma was almost non-existent, but I guess I live in a little bit of a bubble. Why was it okay before the wedding but once the wedding happened off-limits? A separation, if the problems do not improve, leads to divorce. I can understand some of the feeling you might be having about his pot smoking or not, everybody is different. The only people he surrounds himself with are people who smoke weed. I married the man of my dreams. I'm not a person who hides things.
This isn't the way to effectively work through problems in a healthy relationship. I can't tell my family about his addiction as I went against my parents wishes when I married him. He always says he will change his ways, and sometimes will for about a day or so, but it always goes back to the same old thing. They had big dreams together. I know a doctor and an engineer that smoke pot. He's the same old guy while on Marijuana.
On week days when he gets home from work and on weekends usually after lunch. For the record, I know people who smoke every day whose personal and professional lives have not been affected at all. Instead, you made the decision to love him and build a relationship with him. He gets to go out with his friends, go golfing, etc. Or stuff like it helps you concentrate or makes you think deeper???? At the moment I feel we're both finally taking a step in the right direction Alhamdulillah, although we still have a long way to go Subhan'Allah.
After that, you'll see a change, I promise you. For one, again, the actual frequency of his use doesn't concern me. Get online, join a support group. But, it does make you high. Actually, when the children were young, and there were all these D. If need be you can apply for living separated under the same roof payments until you save some money. I'm his wife and that means I made a commitment to him to help him through times like these.
I am so sad and lonely and upset and confused as well. It really does make you anti-social and not wanting to be around people. I also pray that I can do the same to help my own beloved husband Ameen. How about removing yourself instead? A bunch of my friends don't use cannabis, and they're like, 'How do you do that? Even if we try to have sex on a day that he has masturbated, he is unable to perform at all. Although, he dropped the habit when we started dating. Just gotta track it and stay on top of ovulation.
Is it the illegality that concerns you? Cannabis issue aside, just from what she said in the comment above I obviously can't pretend to know the details of their situation , it sounds like she's treating him like a child. And then communicate about it, and communicate about it, and follow that up with communication. I dont know what to do, without it he is a monster but i dont want weed to be around our life like this. I think I will steal your idea of treating smoking as if he's not there. Before we got married, my husband smoked pot morning to night. A lot of people see his addiction as trivial because he has the potential to be an amazing man.