Good luck and bon apetit! He probably eats vegan 3-4 nights a week. And then obviously there are other matters a the ethical thing: how do I feel about animal lives and how does my partner? What does a vegetarian gal dating a non veg guy do when the baby talk comes up? I tried being Vegan for a Year, and while the meals were Delicious, my health caved seriously. Share your passion for the vegan lifestyle so that your partner can see where you are coming from. Find where your taste buds overlap and work from there. Be ok with eating different meals. Outline the products you avoid.
But I stand by my logic. Keep looking, go to meetup. Find foods that you can enjoy together. If I could find all that in one package, I'd be a happy man, but I'm not going to sink a potential match because she's 95% perfect rather than 100% perfect. He is veg 5 days a week because I do the cooking and he is great about it and thinks it fine. By exposing your loved one to documentaries like What the Health, Earthlings or the Netlflix movie Okja, it can help open their eyes to the benefits of veganism. This applies only to newly submitted posts, and not comments on posts.
There was a time when I held similar sentiments. Find restaurants that cater to both your diets. Simply because if you're building a shared life, I think a similar foundation is important. First dates can be tough. Be prepared to have these kinds of conversations a few times — often people, even people very close to us, misconstrue a conversation as something to win, rather than something to learn from. Yep, I'll be alone forever.
Some cities actually have vegan restaurants, and omnivores can enjoy these restaurants just like you can enjoy omnivore restaurants. Your partner may also question your health because your diet limits you to foods without meat or meat by-products. When I talk about the cruelty of meat and whatnot with him it's never accusatory, I just kinda vent my feelings about how horrible animal agriculture is. More than dating someone who enjoys the same music, has the same attitudes towards marriage, or practices the same religion, there exists a hard line of whether or not their ethics are in line with yours. When people change because they are in a relationship, the change usually only lasts as long as the relationship does. In addition to other non-diet reasons, it was hard for me to have meat cooked in my home.
Are you willing to cook eggs for them on Sunday mornings? Others will be stubborn and can take years to make the switch. Be patient, not preachy I think one of the biggest errors many new vegans myself included make is that we tend to evangelize our veganism to our loved ones, turning them off. I would much rather someone decrease their animal product consumption significantly when they begin a relationship with me. Show Respect For One Another The most important step to date a non-vegan is to respect his or her point of view. Remember, you are planting a seed that undoubtedly will sprout someday. The relationship wasn't the healthiest one but hey I am a vegan now and I couldn't be more grateful to have made that choice that I don't know if I would have ever made if I didn't date him. You made this change for yourself; give your significant other the same opportunity.
Instead, talk up the benefits of veganism by saying how good you feel since you made the switch. People have to be free to choose what they want and allowing him to do that meant I ended up with the man I wanted to marry. Vegans might choose to avoid dairy like cheese and butter because they feel it supports the meat industry. No, that wouldn't work out. We sit down together every single night—no exceptions. I know this is taking the topic off on a tangent but it relates in that it means that I am sharing my living space, fridge, cooking utensils etc with meat-eaters. I know that just by being a visible presense I have had an impact on people's diets.
Knowing Vegans are like that is a turn off. We went on a date, part of which was a walk down a long pier to chat and I nearly had to hold her back from throwing some fish back into the water that were in fisherman's bucket. We've been dating for over 5 years and I went vegan less than a year ago, so I think that makes a difference. If you choose to break rule number five which we are known to do , use a vegan meal as the foundation for whatever dish is on the menu that day. I respect her choice not to eat meat. You may have chosen to be vegan for environmental reasons, or to improve your health.
These choices can portray deeper value systems, too. I would definitely encourage my hypothetical nonvegan boyfriend to go vegan, if I had one. Does he think its dangerous? Explain your commitment to a varied diet that contains vegetables, fruit, whole grains, nuts, legumes, and seeds. Maybe they are leaning towards veganism and just need to know more about it. It is really quite difficult when the other person is vegan and the other person is a meat eater when talking about finances. I was vegetarian when we first got together, while he was an omnivore who was phobic about trying new food.
However, even this experience can be beneficial, because it teaches you when to back off when interacting with other people. Always maintaining your vegan standard can get exhausting for your non-vegan partner. Not everyone will be able to do that. The decision to shift the entire household toward a more-vegan way of eating soon followed. Not only is my husband not a vegetarian but he's a proud carnivore.
I think how it goes depends on the people. You can share your love of tofu and nachos loaded with cashew cheese, but resist passing judgment on what your other half orders for dinner. Just set ground rules - like no kissing after eating it. Spend some time together and setting boundaries so that your vegan pantry remains vegan. I could no longer deny the atrocities of the dairy industry and also the toll it had taken on my health. Read our then email with your pitch.